Type 4: Gentle Humble Helper
About 9% of the US population
Have the conversation
It’s critically important that you create a safe, quiet space where you can give your child your complete, undivided attention.
This sends them the message they desperately need to hear: “You are so important to me. I am here for you, and I can help with whatever is troubling you.”
Building a trusted rapport with your Gentle Humble Helper
Smile, give them lots of hugs and kisses and tell them you love them often.
Give them specific directions and instructions: show them what you mean whenever possible.
Accept their need to be physically active; play with and surprise them, and be spontaneous whenever possible.
Support their feelings and allow them to express them in their own time and style.
Use incentives and rewards that are tangible like fun, freedom, money and treats.
This profile provides important new insights to help you connect with your child and build the healthiest, most fulfilling relationship possible.
Gentle Humble Helpers…
tend to be easy-going, warm, gentle and humble. They are very sensitive and feel things deeply and often have a hard time sharing their feelings even with people they trust.
These are kids who like to please others and avoid conflict at all costs. They tend to be loyal friends who are usually good at sharing their toys and possessions.
Gentle Humble Helpers usually have a good sense of humor, but if they make jokes, it is seldom at someone else’s expense.
They like being spontaneous and responding to what comes up, rather than planning things that may happen in the future. They can also be impulsive, doing things that seem like a good idea…at the time. These kids are natural nurturers, who usually enjoy caring for younger siblings and taking care of animals.
Potential vulnerabilities
Research shows that Gentle Humble Helpers have a higher-than-average risk of developing anxiety and depression and are likely to be more susceptible to bullying and other online behaviors. But because every individual is unique, this does not mean that your child is necessarily at increased or decreased risk.
How to nurture your child
“Meet your child where they are.” Great advice: easy to give, and much harder to do! Stretching outside of one’s comfort zone is hard and may take practice, especially when the parent’s and child’s personality types are very different.
But it is no less important than making sure your child is safe, clothed, or fed and may be more critical to protecting their mental health and promoting their well-being. We all have gifts that make us special and for which we want and need to be appreciated.
Your Gentle Humble Helper child’s…
greatest gift is likely their kindness, loyalty, ability to be present in the moment and desire to always be helpful. Recognizing and appreciating these as some of your child’s “superpowers” lets them know that you really see them and love them for who they are.
It’s not unusual for one parent to be naturally better at having conversations that involve emotions. If this is the case, the parent who is less comfortable can learn to communicate more effectively by watching and listening to how the other parent interacts with their child.
Your Gentle Humble Helper…
child may not be very in touch with how they feel about things, or be comfortable sharing their feelings. This does not mean that they don’t have big feelings, or need their parents’ help to deal with them. Balancing these two things can be a challenge for parents. The most effective way to get them to open up to you is to approach them calmly, and slowly, explaining that it’s normal for everyone to feel angry, sad or scared sometimes, and that it usually helps when you talk about it. Reassure them that you’re not going to judge them. And since processing emotions does not come naturally to them, proceed slowly.
This website introduces you to your child’s personality type. Our book, ReConnect: a personalized plan to protect your child from anxiety and depression fueled by digital addiction, also introduces you to your own parenting personality with information on improving communication with all the child types.
Different personalities communicate differently. ReConnect shows you how to sidestep your incompatibilities and form trusted communication with your child.
Appendix
Children & Adolescents – Mental Health Organizations
Books
Suicide Prevention & Support Organizations
Books for Loss Survivors
Evidence-based research
The TPI-C assessment and information shared in this report are the result of the most comprehensive original peer-reviewed study of its kind involving 10,500 subjects. It established a strong statistical correlation between inborn personality type and anxiety and depression and was conducted by Paul D. Tieger and a team of researchers at a leading academic institution.
Have questions or comments?
Please contact Paul D. Tieger, creator of the TPI-C™. You can learn more about him here.
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Please Note:
This report, generated from TPI-C™ (Tieger Personality Indicator for Children™), is provided for educational purposes only. It is NOT meant to diagnose any condition, nor does it explain or predict any future behavior or conditions in children of any personality type. Your report may indicate that children whose personality type is similar to your child’s may be at increased risk for anxiety or depression. But every individual is unique. Therefore, this does not mean that YOUR child is necessarily at increased, or decreased risk.
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